As a minister, the one question that I probably ask people most often is, “how do we know what God is like?” The way that we are taught to read the bible can have a tremendous influence on what we imagine God is like. How do you think it would affect someone’s thoughts about God if you told them that he made something that was evil and that would kill people, and he purposefully put it right in front of the first two people he created, just to tempt them. Oh and I forgot to mention, he made the evil thing look like something that would be really good. Or think about it like this, how would you feel if you developed cancer and then discovered that your parents had filled one of your toys with asbestos and put it in your crib, but told you not to play with it. These are some of the subtle messages that can be sent to children if we teach lessons from the bible like they are simply history lessons or quaint fairytales.
One of the most common questions that kids entering into adolescence ask me is, “why did God make the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil, if he knew Adam and Eve were going to eat from it?” When a child asks a question like this it is a clear sign that they are ready to learn a deeper truth about the story, and this truth is something that we should all meditate on day and night. The tree is not just a tree. The tree represents every decision we are faced with that has the possibility of a good or evil outcome. We may know the difference between good and evil intellectually or in our minds, but when we make a decision that leads to evil we come to know evil experientially or in our hearts. We gain the knowledge of good AND evil.
Now some children will accept this teaching and never question the story again, but many will go on to ask. “why does God give us desires for things that are evil?” This really is a great moment to remind them of Genesis chapter one (this is also an extremely important philosophical truth), that God did not create anything that is evil. The fruit of the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil is good and a benefit to humanity, and the desire for it is a good and natural desire. This is why God can say in Genesis three that, “they have become like us, knowing good and evil.” Think about it this way, if you could truly know all of the pain that a bad decision would cause, and I mean truly know the pain that your family and friends would experience, I mean actually feel the pain that they would feel, do you think you would make the same bad decision?
Let me make this very personal. When I was in Middle School I once rode the bus home with a friend and did not tell my parents where I was going. My mom and dad called everyone they knew and finally tracked me down at about midnight. I came home and I could instantly tell that my mom had been crying on the couch for hours. Now twenty years later, I am a father and I am just know understanding how she must have felt. If I could have somehow possessed that knowledge when I was in Middle School I would have never made that mistake. This is why it is so important for parents to constantly be cultivating relationships with their children and with God. Your relationship with your child has to be cared for like a garden, so that you are able to pass on the knowledge that God has blessed you with and so that your children feel safe to come to you when they make mistakes. Being raised by parents who loved me unconditionally and taught me that God loved me in the same way has been one of the greatest blessings in my life.
This is the type of relationship that God desires to have with us. Jesus refers to the Father so often that we sometimes forget how powerful this revelation was and is. God was referred to as Father in the Old Testament, but the total number of times that God is referred to as Father in the entire Old Testament is minuscule compared with the number of times Jesus refers to the Father in the gospels. The prodigal son is a story of a young man who desired to knowledge of what it would be like to live on his own, neither of which are evil things in and of themselves, but just like Adam and Eve it was his disobedience and impatience which led him to sin. It is Jesus' stripes that we are healed, because we now know that God would experience hunger, thirst, torture, and death for us to know that when we turn back to him he will always be running on the road towards us, and ready to wrap his arms around us.